Tag: communication

Aug 02

DELIVERING THE MESSAGE

How do you share difficult information or confront conflict?  Which delivery system do you rely on and how well is the message received?  Often people need to share important feelings and information, but their delivery is aggressive, condescending or belittling.  They may be completely unaware of the impact that their delivery style has on others, …

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Jul 26

THINK VERSUS FEEL

Are you a thinker or feeler?  Some people favor thinking over feeling because it fits their personality type and they are very good at solving problems.  Thinkers often get rewarded at work for their ability to analyze situations and identify solutions to conflicts.  They have the ability to stay rational and logical without allowing emotion …

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Jul 19

FIGHT OR FLIGHT

Do you tend to attack or retreat when in a verbal confrontation?  Many of us choose one of these options and ironically, in relationships, each individual often selects the opposite position.  We either lash out or shut down when dealing with conflict.  Maybe we select the side that we learned from our past experiences or …

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Apr 19

WALKING ON EGGSHELLS

Stress

Do you find it difficult to be honest and direct with certain people?  Are you in a relationship with someone who can’t handle the truth?  Some people are highly sensitive and react strongly to perceived rejection and criticism. They may over personalize the comments received or react based on residual emotion from past hurts.  We …

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Sep 14

MISSING THE POINT!

Have you ever sent an email or text that was completely misinterpreted?  This frequent occurrence is now supported by research.  A study done by Riordan and Trichtinger and published in the journal Human Communication Research found that friends are no better at correctly interpreting emotional emails than complete strangers.  Of course the participants in the …

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Apr 20

CAN YOU HANDLE THE TRUTH?

We say that we want to know what our spouse feels or thinks, but do we really?  The infamous line by Jack Nicholson from the movie “A Few Good Men” captures it best, “You can’t handle the truth!”  Sharing our feelings openly, honestly, and directly is often the best approach, but we have to be …

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Feb 24

SPEAK UP!

Stress

Do you know anyone who has a hard time being direct?  Many people would rather avoid conflict and keep things inside than communicate directly.  They are worried about hurting the other person’s feelings or fear the reaction they might receive.  Two ways people communicate indirectly are through being passive and holding everything inside, and being passive-aggressive and …

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Sep 08

CONNECT THROUGH CONFLICT

Stress

Have you ever noticed that some people create conflict or drama wherever they go?  Sort of like the Peanuts character Pigpen who has a cloud of dirt/dust surrounding him.  There are those people who can trigger emotions in just about anyone and seem to enjoy the reaction they get from others.  What is that all …

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Jul 21

CLUELESS AND CONFUSED

Do you know people who are either too pushy or are pushovers and have no awareness of their behaviors?  Many of us have limited insight into our communication style, personality, and flaws.  A recent study from Columbia Business School by Ames and Wazlawek found that people seen as under-assertive or over-assertive think that they are appropriately assertive. …

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Feb 26

THE SILENT TREATMENT

Are you in a relationship with someone who shuts down when they’re angry?  Or are you involved with a person who generally doesn’t share much?  Either way it can make it difficult and frustrating to connect with this individual.  A recent article written by Eliza Collins from USA Today finds that women are wired to …

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