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Jan 20

COMFORT IN CHANGE

Last week I talked about the overwhelming changes our world is experiencing and difficulties in coping. As I mentioned, any type of change can cause stress (even positive changes), but when we are challenged and confronted with change all the time, the emotional and mental impact can tax people beyond their ability to cope. So how does one cope with change, stress, and life demands?

For starters, we need to focus on the things/people in our lives that are stable, unchanging, and secure. Leaning on our spouse, family, close friends, and our faith during stressful and difficult times can be comforting. This requires us to reach out, share our vulnerabilities, and ask for help. For some, this task is difficult since they prefer to be self-reliant and independent.   People need people.  Research supports that when individuals are connected to others they live longer and deal with stress better.  Personally,  faith and fitness help me to cope with life stressors and change.  I’m also a big fan of sharing our burdens with loved ones who can offer support, encouragement, and hope.  Some people gain comfort from journaling, listening to music, and/or reading.

Taking a break from technology (especially news) and spending time with nature can provide comfort.  Setting aside time to meditate, reflect, breathe, relax, and be still can reduce stress and give us perspective.  Turn off the computer, phone, TV, and consider playing a board game instead.  Accept the changes with a positive attitude instead of with resistance and agony.  Lastly, follow the serenity prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.  Change is inevitable, but our response can determine the impact.

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  1. clef vaughan

    Good job!

    1. DrTony

      Thank you!

  2. Tubin Cubin

    I agree that nature (especially being in or near the ocean) offers a way to “center” your life on whats important. Technology without boundaries can get you off balance really fast. Great thoughts Dr T

    1. DrTony

      Thanks Artie for your thoughts and support.

  3. Suellen Roselle

    Thank you for that! And thank you for reminding us of the Serenity Prayer. That is a wonderful thing to try and remember everyday!!

    1. DrTony

      Thanks Suellen for your support.

  4. Rose

    Over the last few years I made a decision to limit listening to the news. It is so easy to become hard,angry & many other feelings with our world today. My next step is managing technology as I type this on my iPad. :-/ the Serinity Prayer is powerful but can be difficult. I was recently told the acceptance of what you can not change isn’t saying it’s ok. However, I feel it’s defeat, no hope..thoughts Tony.

    1. DrTony

      You’re right Rose, these suggestions are not easy. Acceptance of what we can’t control or change is not defeat from my perspective, instead it allows you to use that energy elsewhere and limits our frustration.

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