August 20, 2012 in Featured
Do you ever feel overwhelmed with the pressures of life? Of course, we all struggle with stress and conflict daily. Some deal with financial stress, others physical problems, some emotional issues, others vocational conflicts, and some interpersonal struggles. No one is completely immune to stress and conflict in life. The question is how do we deal with it? Many of us learned coping mechanisms from our early development, some good, others not so good. Mental toughness and resilience are skills that can be learned over time and improved through practice. One important part of resilience is changing our thinking. More specifically, we cope better when we keep situations in perspective, maintain a hopeful outlook, and look for opportunities of self-discovery in the midst of a crisis. Incorporating positive ways to reduce stress, such as exercise or mindfulness, can be another method to build mental toughness. Taking action, moving toward positive goals, and confronting the conflicts can be positive steps toward coping. At times we need to accept that change is a part of life and let go of the past. Many of these suggestions are difficult to do when you’re struggling to stay afloat, but will make a difference. When we are hurting it helps to make connections with friends and family so that we don’t have to go through it alone. Having a faith can provide a comfort and confidence even when we can’t explain the situation or the consequences. Most people’s problems are not the problem, but their fear to admit and address the problems are the real issues. So many of us try to be better, but aren’t successful. I will often say, “trying is lying.” Stop trying and start doing.